Volume 1 * Issue 9 * October 26, 2006
In This Issue: Welcome! If you had plans of dressing up for Halloween, try this costume on for size: be yourself! That's not meant to be a joke, as in, you don't need a hat and a broomstick to be a scary witch! What I mean is, we so rarely come truly as we are, that it would be a good change for us. Not only do we wear our costumes as mother (father), wife (husband), boss, worker etc., but we also wear masks. We wear the mask of having it all together, when we don't; the mask of being "happy-go-lucky" when we're hurting inside; the mask of wealth and luxury when we can't make the mortgage payment. It takes a lot of energy and work to keep our masks on, and often we turn to food, alcohol and drugs to help us keep up the charade. Try taking off just one mask this week. Level with a safe friend or a family member about how you're really feeling; the pain you really feel. This may seem like a foreign concept, and too risky to try, BUT TRY IT ANYWAY. You'll be amazed at the pressure it relieves for you—and how close by solutions really are. The only ghosts and goblins that exist are the ones in our minds. Don't let them trick you any longer. Let them go this Halloween, and you'll find that you are the real treat! And don't miss our upcoming workshop: Healing Your Hunger! It will be fun, informative and exceptionally healing! All emotional eaters are eating to fill a void inside that can never be filled by food. Stress and inner turmoil must be addressed, but how? We may even know the reasons why we overeat, but rarely do we know what to really do about it. All we know is to try another diet or exercise plan. But the ache persists. Wouldn't it be nice to know what that ache really is, and how to heal it? Wouldn't you like to wake up each morning without thoughts of food, or that repeated promise to "be good" that day? Register NOW, in response to this email, and you will receive a Fre*e CD: "Change Your Life, Change Your Waistline"! Happy Halloween to everyone! Love, Tricia
Dear Ask It: I have been a yo-yo dieter all my life. My weight is more out of control than it used to be. My daughter is starting to show signs of having issues with food (she is only 9) and I'm really concerned. My son is also a very big eater (he is 12). I buy healthy foods for them, but they are always snacking and aren't as active as I'd like them to be. I'm really worried they will end up with weight problems like me. What can I do? Dear Distressed: So many parents come to us in despair after seeing the effect that their eating behavior is having on their own children. As Roy often says, there is nothing more guilt producing than raising children, you can't ever do it perfectly! Kids do absorb the habits and messages they receive around them, especially at home, so it is virtually impossible for parents with eating disorders NOT to affect their kids with their own food issues. The important thing to know is that kids are also positively affected by the positive changes you make. The key is to work on your own healing. Spend your energy facing your own issues, instead of trying to hide them from your children. Consider taking our next Teleclass series: Breaking Free From Emotional Eating. They will follow your example as you learn alternative ways of coping with stress and boredom other than reaching for food. Involve them in your new lifestyle in subtle ways, like making a game out of parking in the furthest spot away from the store and enjoying walking to the store together. Teach them about organic foods and make a special weekly trip to the health food store for organic fruits and vegetables. Every positive change will make a difference. Remember that all of Be Totally Free!'s services help you address deeper issues and stress and gain support in making changes that will positively affect your whole family. *Do you have a question you'd like to have answered? Write me at askitbasket@betotallyfree.com.
Are You Micromanaging Your Child?Do you pride yourself on being a parent of the new millennium: caring, involved, and determined to help your child succeed? Maybe so, but there are times when your involvement could do more harm than good. WebMD asked child development and parenting experts to identify signs you may be micromanaging your child. Here are their top 10 warnings that you're going too far—unless you suspect drug use or are worried about a serious health or safety issue:
To find more peace and balance with regard to child-rearing, bring the focus back to something you have more control over: you! Spend more time taking care of yourself, and less time managing your child's life, and you will find that your child's well-being and your relationship with your child will improve. As Roy Nelson often reminds those with children, "God doesn't have any grandchildren". Eating the right foods and minimizing stress are major by-products of Be Totally Fre*e's services. Check out our website for more information.
November 1st UPLIFTING 1 hour conference call--Wednesday at 6 pm Pacific/9 pm Eastern. For more information and to register, click here. November 4th HEALING YOUR HUNGER a half-day conference in Los Angeles. For more information, click here. January 15th 6 week TRANSFORMATIONAL TELECLASS begins: Breaking Fre*e from Emotional Eating--Mondays at 5:30 pm Pacific/8:30 pm Eastern. For more information and to register, click here. Join University of Masters and hear Tricia's regular classes: "Change Your Life, Change Your Waistline."
After overcoming her own lifetime battle with compulsive eating, drinking and weight-without the use of diets, pills, medication or excessive exercise-Tricia Greaves founded Be Totally Fre*e!, a non-profit organization that offers a unique and permanent solution for overcoming all addictions. To learn about the hope we offer to those who have tried everything to stop, visit www.betotallyfree.com. |
