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This Issue:
“Thank God I”…Does
Obesity Cause Divorce?...Caffeine Roulette
Wow! We had some incredibly beautiful
weather here in Los Angeles this past week. I have to pinch myself
sometimes, after having moved here from the cold and snow of the
northeast. Living in Southern California has been a real boon to
my spirit, my life and my business. I have learned so much in the
past year. So many opportunities for growth and so many wonderful
connections with very special people.
One of these people is a woman named Amanda Kroetsch, who is co-spearheading
the largest book anthology ever, entitled: “Thank God I”.
Many grateful people who have had life-altering experiences with
Be Totally Free! are going to actually be authors in this series.
I have the honor of being a featured author in their flagship book,
along with “The Secret”’s Michael Beckwith, which
will be launched later this year. If you enjoyed “The Secret”
you will LOVE the “Thank God I” books! Be the first
to check out the new trailer for this incredible contribution to
the gratitude movement: Watch
the video
Do you have a story of gratitude? Have you made lemonade out of
lemons? Be another TGI author! Email me at tricia@betotallyfree.com
and I’ll show you how.
Don’t miss the “Ask It” feature this week…read
it and “weigh in” with me after…I may print your
response in my next issue!
Love,
Tricia
(This issue’s “Ask It”
is actually taken from a question posed on a relationship advice
website. It was forwarded to me and because it is so provocative
I am including it in this forum.)
Dear Ask It:
I read over your site with interest but I didn’t
find what I call the real cause of divorce: obesity. Many men are
attracted to their mate because of the way they look. Then they
decide to marry based on who they are. Children come and then suburban
spread takes on a whole new meaning. You can see this in any suburban
Starbucks or Dunkin’ Donuts in America.
My wife and I broke up because she went from a size 6 to a size
22 and practiced the art of martyrdom saying that “the kids
always come first” and “she couldn’t possibly
do anything for herself” including practicing the art of femininity:
hair, makeup, manicure, pedicure, stylish clothes and anything else
most feminine woman are supposed to do. I felt abandoned. Then came
the lying to my friends. Etc. Until we had nothing in common.
I know many other men who also experience this. Some are very unhappy
and would divorce but can’t. You look at the wedding picture
of the woman and you look at her now and you ask, “what happened?”
Many women say (my experience) “I have to lose weight for
my wedding pictures but they don't have plans for weight management
after the wedding. I am writing to you because my divorce isn’t
final and I want answers. I do not want my full name used as it
would hurt my wife’s feelings, but if you disguise my name
it may be helpful to others who struggle with this very real issue.
And, maybe someone will send advice.
~Fed Up in Florida
Dear Fed Up:
Obesity isn't an easy issue to tackle. The issue is most
likely an actual eating disorder which always leaves carnage in
its wake. A woman who balloons from a size 6 to a size 22 isn't
doing so because she lacks regard for her relationship with her
husband, or her husband lacks regard for her feelings. Self-centeredness
(martyrdom), lack of self-care, mounting financial and emotional
chaos and sexual despondency are symptoms of a progressive eating
disorder and low self-esteem.
Even the most caring, accepting and compassionate husband will not
be able to help his wife lose weight unless she is willing to honestly
face and accept that she has a problem and is willing to make changes
in all areas of her life. She may have many excuses for being the
weight she is, like kids' and husbands' demands, stress, lack of
time to exercise or funds for the right foods, but they aren't the
real cause. Unless she addresses the underlying cause of her own
eating problem and low self-worth she won't have a real chance to
lose weight and keep it off.
Obesity isn't a moral issue. It is most likely an eating disorder
and recovery from it entails more than a good exercise program and
food plan. Change will be most possible in an environment of love,
care, and non-judgment. Remember that the underlying issues are
complicated and take time to heal.
From this new perspective, offer to help her get the support she
needs. So long as she wants to make changes and you want to support
her in doing so (as well as make changes of your own) there is hope.
It’s impossible to change for another person and under another’s
pressure. That only invites rebellion and stagnation. The desire
has to come from within. If she is not willing to address the underlying
problems and has given up on herself, it is understandable that
a spouse would be frustrated and ready to quit (the same advice
goes for spouses of obese men, of course). It may be that she is
so used to failing at weight loss that she is afraid to hope and
afraid to try. Please recommend our services, we’d love to
help.
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Tricia Greaves is the "Heal Your Hunger" coach and offers
private and group coaching sessions for those wanting to achieve
"weight loss from the inside out". For a fre*e 30 minute
coaching session, please email Tricia at tricia@betotallyfree.com.
(Please forward to everyone you know!)
Caffeine Roulette
No one really knows why people react so differently
to caffeine. One person’s standard every-morning double
latte is another person’s anxiety freak-out. Over the years,
we’ve heard any number of conflicting reports on caffeine
and its impact on our health, especially our hearts. To puzzle
out the right answers, you’d probably need a whole pot of
coffee just to stay awake.
A new study sheds some light on why all this research has produced
such differing results. Earlier studies identified the gene that
causes us to metabolize caffeine well and a variant of the same
gene that doesn’t do as good a job. The version you have
determines how fast your body can process the caffeine you consume.
Researchers from the University of Toronto asked some 4,000 people
in Costa Rica (half of whom had suffered a nonfatal heart attack)
to fill out a food frequency questionnaire. Genetic testing revealed
55 percent of them to be “slow coffee metabolizers.”
Of this subgroup, those who drank around two or three cuppa joes
a day were 36 percent more likely to have a nonfatal heart attack
than those who didn’t drink coffee.
The crazy part? The same amount of caffeine can actually be good
for the hearts of those with the fast metabolizing gene. Unfortunately,
you can’t know for sure to which group you belong without
genetic testing. In the meantime, it’s probably best to
ensure your heart’s health by keeping consumption of caffeinated
items to a minimum.
~Alternative Medicine, August 2006
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